You are aware of both men’s issues and women’s issues which is what the world needs…

One subject in particular really sets me off and that is child rearing/parenting. Most women have this thought that they are the only ones capable of parenting, when in reality, children need both parents who will not use them as Chess pieces. As a woman I am genuinely sick of the complaints I hear, for example…. Single mom says ” Oh its so hard, I can’t do this on my own.” Problem is … she just doesn’t want to relinquish any time she has with that child but will blame her frustrations on others.

As for the issue with Shelters..

I dont understand how in my city we have 3 women shelters but non for men, seriously, do we believe that men are the only ones who abuse others? What about all that manipulations and mental abuse some dudes girlfriend put him through. Now I don’t want to knock any female who has genuinely been abused but you have to understand that women are not the only sex who are abused, in some same sex relationships, women are abused by other women or vice-versa for gay males.

Here is my proposition….

Joint custody be provided to both parents (except in cases, of alcholism, drug abuse or proven abuse.) or unless both parents made other arrangements! On the other hand I also know some men who completely drop their responsibility(child) on other people and then get ticked off when asked for money.

I believe we should petition the city to make more shelters available to men and to upkeep the current ones we have for females.

As for psychotherapy for men ..

Well unfortunatly each person is different, having gone into Psychology in School, I understand that you cannot treat everyone the same way, there may be some difference but what we need to look at is the outcome and is it sustained.

Lets say we go onto meds/therapy.. Joe has adhd and takes Ritalin but Dan has an adverse reactionto the same medication, then basing therapy on sex is a joke. Or for example Joe comes from an abusive family and Dan is rebelling because his family is over-protective, can you treat these two males the same?

I produced a documentary on the science of love for the Discovery Channel Europe and interviewed a number of research scientists. One thing that they pointed out - and this is in no way new, experimental or hypothetical but long-known fact amongst brain researchers - is that the brains of men and women have over 100 anatomical differences. Also, as a trained psychotherapist in humanistic psychotherapy, it was obvious to all of us, women and men alike, that working with men and women in therapy is different. But both sexes do have the need to work through their feelings. The emotional center of the brain - the hypothalamus - has about twice the number of cells in the male brain. I personally believe this results in a reservoir effect - we can hold back more but also release more when the floodgates open. I realize this is a very unscientific generalization, but with those kinds of differences in anatomy, there is obviously a difference in our emotional worlds.

I’m a little surprised to read a Swedish man writing about the distance between men and homophobia. I experience it a lot in America, but I lived in Germany and Austria for many years and enjoyed a lot of emotional closeness to other men - including hugs, comfort, compliments on my looks and flirtatious jokes. Maybe men there are more Romanesque than I thought.