My Vision for the Future

March 12th, 2009 by Pelle Billing

It’s easy to point out what is wrong with the current gender roles, or to point out how feminism is incomplete and sometimes plain wrong. What’s harder though, is to be able to state a positive vision for the future, without pointing out all the negatives that can be identified in the gender debate.

So what I would like to do in this post is to simply list my vision for the future, i.e. how I would like men, women and gender roles to evolve. In the not too distant future, I would like the following bullet points to become a lived reality around the world:

  • Gender stereotypes have been completely transcended, and each individual is free to pursue the life path that he or she wants. No boy, girl, woman or man is shamed for having a certain interest, or for wanting to pursue a certain career or be a homemaker. Transcending stereotypes does not necessarily mean that men and women will make the same choices on a group level, since biological differences will still remain in the brain and in bodily makeup.
  • Biological differences between the brains of men and women will no longer be ignored, since scientific research clearly shows that such differences exist. However, biological differences aren’t overemphasized either, since everyone recognizes that each individual is biologically unique, and may not have a brain that corresponds to biological sex.
  • Feminism has been replaced by a gender liberation movement that cares equally about the well-being of both sexes.
  • It has become common knowledge that traditional gender roles arose as a reaction to historical circumstances, and that it made perfect sense at one point to have those gender roles, since they were a functional fit to the current conditions. This understanding enables women and men alike to relax, and to refrain from blaming the other sex for the negative baggage that each gender role has.
  • All legislation is gender neutral, including laws concerning military service and the draft. Gays and lesbians are allowed to get married and adopt children, just like anyone else, since there is no logical reason to uphold such discrimination.
  • Men and women recognize that a marriage is not only about love, it is also something that has a huge impact on your life as a whole. Because of this, men and women form agreements when getting married about what will happen to any children if they are divorced, and how each person will survive financially in case of divorce. Financial and social capital are both valued highly when forming such agreements.
  • Biological paternity and maternity are established on all newborns using DNA testing, and legal paternity and maternity correspond to the results of such testing, unless the child is put up for adoption.
  • Discrimination is frowned upon, as are people who try to blame their own shortcomings on discrimination.
  • Schools teach children relationship skills and emotional awareness, so that the children can grow up to use these skills in the workplace and in personal relationships. This decreases the violence that both sexes instigate in the home, and the violence that men perpetrate outside the home. It also lessens the emotional manipulation of girls and women.

What is your vision for the future?

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12 Responses to “My Vision for the Future”

  1. Michael Grove Says:

    I would ABSOLUTELY concur with ALL your bullet points as prerequisites to the establishment of the model on which I have based the 111 network proposal.

  2. Bj0rnborg Says:

    Schools teach children to take responsibility for their own actions.

  3. Jim Says:

    I concur with Michael Grove.

    The next step is to identify the porcesses and structures that keep this vison form becoming real. We may find that a lot of the fixes we have put in place are working against this.

  4. Mark Davenport Says:

    Would that it were, Pelle,

    (Just testing your familiarity with archaic English subjunctives and conditionals.)
    Your vision seems based on the 18th century enlightenment model: the extension of fundamental rights in ever expanding circles of inclusion. But Thomas Jefferson, let us say, would have had trouble understanding that his ideal society would in truth have restricted him from a true gender freedom. That is, he had no idea that women might somehow have freedoms that he might wish for.

    And that’s the rub. As advanced as Jefferson’s modern view was, there are many many people still at levels less advanced than his – and we all have to go through those less developed stages to get to where he was, let alone beyond to the post and post modern stages described in your vision.

    Such a vision is a great luxury that few can grasp. But such are the only visions I’m interested in.

    Keep writing,

  5. Jim Says:

    “As advanced as Jefferson’s modern view was…”

    …his execution lagged far, far behind. He never provided for freeing his slaves, among many other things inconsisten with his vision. Nonetheless in hs case it ‘s the vision that has had the impact and the execution that has passed into nothingness.

    People love their slaveries and they often hold back, if not destroy, those who want real freedom.

  6. Mark Davenport Says:

    Hi Jim,

    Yes, Jefferson definitely promised more than he delivered as an historical figure. But I was simply using him as an example of a well known “enlightened” personality more or less at the leading edge of political/social consciousness for his period.

    No quarrel.

  7. Pelle Billing Says:

    “The next step is to identify the porcesses and structures that keep this vison form becoming real. We may find that a lot of the fixes we have put in place are working against this.”

    Are you thinking about any specific fixes? If so, then I’d love to hear you share some of those.

  8. Pelle Billing Says:

    @Mark: Yes, communicating new ideas in an easily understood manner is a true challenge. We cannot force people to “get more educated” or “evolve faster”, instead we need to find a language that captures complex ideas in a simple manner.

    @Bj0rnborg: I agree.

    @Michael: Thanks for your support.

  9. Jim Says:

    Specific fixes?

    1. Unexamined women’s advocacy. It is good and necessary to advocate for women. it is counter-productive to advocate for women in watys the 1) entrench gender stereotypes (Victimhood Feminism) or that 2) base themselves on gender stereotypes (women as frail, oppressed little creatures, women as passive recipients of others’ actions, always finding a way to excuse women’s wrong actions on the basis of some outside condition, etc).

    2. Gender bigotry:
    a. “Men start all wars and are responsible for all war.”
    b. “Women are naturally more nurtutring and have a better claim to raise

  10. Jim Says:

    Hit the wrong button too soon, but you get the idea.

  11. Pelle Billing Says:


    Yeah, I’m thinking that there are a number of historical and present day factors to overcome.

    1. The huge problems with the male gender role (expendability, etc) have yet to gain mainstream recognition, and hence most people don’t realize that there are any issues with the male gender role.
    2. Feminism has added an extra layer of guilt and shame that men now (unconsciously) carry.
    3. Feminism has disempowered women by emphasizing their victimhood.
    4. We don’t know how to reconcile the nature vs nurture debate.
    5. Men don’t have a language for expressing what it’s like to be a man. Men have yet to “find their voice”. (Bj0rnborg is deeply interested in this issue)

    Even beginning to sort these factors out, and talking about them is a huge step forward. Every man that breaks the silence and stands up for what he has seen and experienced changes reality forever.


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