Archive for August, 2012

Yet Another Study Demonstrates Importance of Fathers

Tuesday, August 21st, 2012

Anyone who’s even vaguely familiar with men’s issues – and gender equality that goes both ways – know that fathers have a unique role to play in their children’s lives.

A few examples include:

A new study demonstrates that the father-child relationship is important for yet another reason. Namely, that persistence is primarily learned from fathers.

Medical Xpress writes:

BYU professors Laura Padilla-Walker and Randal Day arrived at these findings after following 325 families over several years. And over time, the persistence gained through fathers lead to higher engagement in school and lower rates of delinquency.

“In our research we ask ‘Can your child stick with a task? Can they finish a project? Can they make a goal and complete it?’” Day said. “Learning to stick with it sets a foundation for kids to flourish and to cope with the stress and pressures of life.”

Persistence is a terribly important trait in life. Without it, you are unlikely to accomplish much at all. Especially the male gender role is built on persistence, so men who do not learn this are less likely to succeed.

So what is it that fathers do right, when they teach persistence?

The key is for dads to practice what’s called “authoritative” parenting – not to be confused with authoritarian. Here are the three basic ingredients:

  • Children feel warmth and love from their father
  • Accountability and the reasons behind rules are emphasized
  • Children are granted an appropriate level of autonomy

I would say that these characteristics are what people think of when they think of a good father. Loving the child, but also expecting accountability, and preparing the child for its adult life.

Most of us simply know, instinctively, that fathers are important. But it is good to have it verified once more by reasearch.

Excellent Article by (Former) Radical Feminist

Thursday, August 9th, 2012

What is your emotional world like if you are a radical feminist? I found this brave and interesting article where a (former) radical feminist describes her transition from a place of hate, to a more loving approach towards gender issues.

First, she describes what her emotional life was like:

When I was younger, maybe 10 or 12 or 15, I used to say I hated men. I probably did. My feminism was born from anger—at them and at a world in which they seemed too powerful and too happy to take advantage of other people’s powerlessness. Second in line for my feminist wrath was women who seemingly made it harder on other women by giving in to men, using their looks and sex appeal to gain a piece of that power.

This is a terrible place to be in. You’re constantly fighting and hating men – as well as women who “give in to men”.

However, this particular radical feminist had a breakthrough, while reading a book by black feminist bell hooks:

There was a line towards the end of the introduction where she wrote about subconsciously waiting for men to die in order to feel like women could live a free life. The line took my breath away. I just started sobbing. I had spent so much time and energy reinforcing this idea in my head that men were my enemy, and it had made me so bitter and mistrusting of them and any woman that I felt was “on their side.” I had so much pain wrapped up in my politics. I knew I couldn’t continue like this any longer.

Waiting for men to die sounds insane. But I fully believe her. The only acceptable solution if you believe in hardcore radical feminism is that men disappear. Because as long as they are around they will intrinsically oppress women.

I commend this particular woman (Jessica Hopper) for her honesty and I’m truly happy that she has left her hate behind. At the same time, it’s important to realize that she is not an isolated example. Radical feminism is fairly widespread, and important features of its ideology are part of mainstream feminism.

This means that chronic anger towards men is part of the sphere of gender politics. Obviously this is terrible for men, but as Jessica Hopper demonstrates it’s also a bad place to be in for the person harboring these emotions.

The solution is to embrace a new view of gender issues. A view that includes men’s issues as well as women’s issues, and that demonstrates that both gender roles have their drawbacks – not only the female gender role.

Where Have I Been?

Tuesday, August 7th, 2012

I’m finally updating this blog again. The reason for my absence is that I’ve been finishing up my Swedish book on gender issues.

The book is called “Jämställdhetsbluffen” which roughly means “The Gender Equality Bluff” – though it’s hard to properly translate a short title. I’m self-publishing the book and it should be released in roughly a month.

I wish I could tell you that I have an English book up my sleeve as well, but unfortunately I don’t. Most of my writing is in Swedish these days, and my Swedish blog is a real force in that country.

However, I will keep updating this blog so stay tuned for some upcoming interesting stuff.